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2006 (August through December) Tuesday, August 1 For Susan who responded to Stefanie about risk assessment: Sounds like you had a great time. Every time I get on my bike I do a Lord Michael prayer and I believe it works for me. I was riding home in Ohio after visiting the Vintage Motorcycle races with my hubby. He was riding in front, so I watch for him and myself, when all the sudden a car came out of nowhere . . . a girl was on her cell phone weaving back and forth. She came into my lane moving me clear over to the berm, she realized where she was so she overcompensated turning the wheel hard almost taking my hubby out. I laid on the horn and my hubby noticed what was going on so he pulled off. Then the girl and I pulled off . . . she started cussing us out saying we were in her lane. My hubby shut her up real quick stating he had everything on tape on my helmet camera . . . she turned many shades of red, got in her car and took off. I love my bike, a Ninja 650, but I am always extra careful. I feel like I have an exorcist head spinning around watching everything from all corners. Next month I am taking a women's only IBR [Iron Butt Rally] 1000 [miles] in 24 [hours] going from Youngstown, Ohio thru WV, PA MA and back to Ohio. I am nervous but excited. Happy riding. – Ninja Babe (note from Mama: constant scanning of what's happening around us is a must . . . we have a better chance being proactive rather than reactive (when possible). For those interested in saying a biker's prayer before riding, KarrieAnne shared some this May that she found.) Dear VTwin Mama, My story is so much like so many but here goes: In January of this year, I lost the love of my life . . . at the age of 50 he had a massive heart attack while playing racquet ball. It's been 7 months yesterday and I still cry nearly every day in missing him. My point is that Piggy (that was his biker name!) had a love of motorcycles like no other and we rode everywhere! He had an '87 HD Police Special, a Boss Hoss and a custom chopper, and on each an every one we had a blast ! In 2003, we were hit from behind on the chopper and my man saved my life by holding on to me and riding it all the way out . . . he was hurt pretty bad but saved me from a lot of serious injury . . . and we still rode once we healed. After Piggy's death, the most important thing for me was to learn to ride. Everyone kept saying "who's going to ride T. now that Piggy is gone?" and all I could think was why did someone have to ride me . . . let me ride myself !! So, I took the MSF class and just like Lee in Central NC, on the Figure 8, I dropped the bike and quit right there. I felt that it was a sign that said I was always to ride on the back . . . I couldn't handle it !! But it has been 2 months now and I know more than anything that I want to ride on my own. Piggy wants me to ride, he just wants me to learn how to ride right !! So, ladies, right now I'm looking for pure mental support !! Today, a friend of mine is bringing her Honda Rebel up to work and I am going to start all over again. I have a few . . . no, a lot of concerns, but I am going to give this my best. Wish me luck and keep me in your thoughts and prayers! – T in Delaware Dear T., Yes, your story mirrors many women riders, but still, you are an individual, with personal motivation and concerns. Despite the not-so-perfect experience with the MSF course, like many other women, they gained enough knowledge to then strike out and get some riding time to work on skills. That Honda Rebel is a good bike to get it on. In a personal email to you yesterday, I shared some reminders about your practice session today. Remember that baby steps are good, learning even better, and always stick to your own pace and no one else's! If you find that you could use some teaching aids, my Education Center contains numerous sources of excellent books and DVDs. YOU CAN DO IT! – Mama Thursday, August 10 For T. who is at the beginning of her learning curve and needs some encouragement: Hi, T! Just wanted to encourage you to keep trying. You WILL get there. I had a lot of trouble doing the figure 8 in the MSF course, too. I didn't drop the bike, but I always went waaaaaay outside the allowed space. I finally decided that, since everything else was going well, I would just purposely blow that part of the test and not worry about it, and it worked! I did blow the figure 8 test, but I did everything else right and passed the course. I'm sorry you lost your Piggy, but it sounds like he really would love it if you took up riding. Now it'll be his turn to ride on the back, and I'm sure he will be there. In fact, if you think about it, you won't ever ride alone! Hopefully, knowing he's riding with you will help you pass the course next time. Sincerely, – Li in Florida (note from Mama: thanks for your note on test taking and "seeing" Piggy as a guardian angel of sorts . . . I'm sure he is cheering T. on from the great beyond!) Look at this page
on the Total Motorcycle site. It gives you a great perspective on
how to ride, where to train and what to do. I like everything but the
“off road." My belief is that if I take baby off road, something
terribly wrong has happened! I agree that the Rebel is an outstanding entry bike. I started on a Rebel and loved it. Go back and take that MSF course again. Hang in there. If you are really passionate about learning to ride, you will. I will pray that if it is God's will you will learn how to ride. Just don't give up on yourself. I learned at 52 and if I can learn anyone can. – Bobbye in NC (note from Mama: thanks for the message of support!) Friday, August 11 For T. who is at the beginning of her learning curve and needs some encouragement: Hang in there and keep trying. I took the Beginner Rider class in June and did not pass the test. So went out and bought a small bike - VStar 650 - still learning lots of techniques - yet having a blast doing so. Do most of my riding by myself now - just around the edges of town. Have to ask lots of questions but everyone has been so supportive and helpful - never feel embarrassed. There is no way you will ever regret taking the time to learn - just take it in baby steps and let the rest come as you go. – Anonymous (note from Mama: sticking with it pays off!) And now a message from T.: Thank you all for the words of encouragement and support! I did go out on my friend's Rebel and it was great ! We just did the parking lot and down to a circle in the Industrial Park, but for that one hour, I got my joy of riding back!! It's baby steps, like I need but, as my friend said, it was fun to ride again! So we are going to do this again and I will keep doing this until my confidence level comes up and I will be back to the MSF course!! And thank you so much for your prayers and expressions of Piggy . . . he was the most incredible man alive!! I wish there were more people in this world like him, he brought a joy and a love of life to everyone he met. He was a party animal and there were times, as we all know, but as my youngest son said, after Piggy's service, "One thing we all know that when we go to heaven, look up Piggy first because he will know where the parties are !!" As for always riding with me, I know that for a fact . . . about a year ago we got matching "Pig" tattoos and mine is right at the base of my neck . . . so not only spiritually but "hard core" . . . Piggy rides with me !! Thanks again for all your support.. I am a devoted VTM sister already and will let you all know how things go!! – T. in Delware (note from Mama: we wish you the best in your journey!) Tuesday, August 15 Dear VTwin Mama, I bought a 1985 Virago 700 this spring that I could drop
(but hopefully not) without feeling like I was wrecking my 'baby'. I've
been reading, watching and parking lot practicing all summer and was really beginning
to feel like I might I don't feel that way anymore! I was able to lean into the curves (yes, the press really DOES work) LOOKED where I wanted to go and the bike went . . . One of the things that scared me was I dropped the Vstar coming up off a hill from a stop on a curve. Well 'duh!' . . . my driveway IS a hill!! I spent about an hour today doing the 'feathering' technique and finally nailed it. That boosted my confidence big time, one more hurdle was crossed. My hubby couldn't believe it when I went thru town as I have always said I could 'never' drive in traffic. Then I amazed him even more by hopping on the freeway!!! I encountered some scary situations, but instead of panicking, I 'knew' what to do. Someone passed a semi and was coming right at me, I slowed waaaaaaaaaaay down and got as far to the right as I could and luckily they had time to get back in the lane they belonged in instead of squishing me! I shook my head at them in disgust which with my chrome dome (chrome helmet) I am sure they could see. I am on cloud nine right now and have to give a HUGE thank you to your site and all the girls that have shared their stories. Feel free to share my email as I would love to give support and get support for this awesome ride ahead!!!! (getnskinny@yahoo.com) I'm going to keep watching the Ride
like a Pro DVD, reading my books and practicing, but now I really feel
like I can have FUN too!!! The weather after Monday is supposed to be awesome
so I might even ride my bike to work!!! Dear Scooter Stace, A quick reminder that the VTwin Mama site offers an
opportunity for riders to get involved in helping other riders through the
VTwin Mama Mentor
program. I've had a number of letters from Mentors who shared that
they have provided much needed one-on-one encouragement and assistance . .
. yes, it makes a difference! Sometimes it's just one shot, but others
have reported making new friends along the way. Why not join in?! –
Mama Hi Petra, In a previous letter I was concerned about speed, so today my husband wanted me to try to get my speed to 55 and maintain it. I got up to 53, but was uncomfortable because the road and all that was ahead of me became somewhat of a blur because of wind in my face, etc. I have a 3/4 face shield on my helmet and had my new glasses on. Yes, after my first few rides, I found out I was pretty much blind, so went to the eye Dr. And what is it with me and dogs? Hubby asked me if I saw the dog come out into the road and I said, "NO" I was concentrating on the road ahead and was having a hard time seeing or at least processing at that speed. Also, my windshield was fogging up (it was early morning). I hope this speed thing is a natural thing to most folks just starting out and that with more practice I will be able to process faster and not that my bike has vibration at that speed. I didn't really feel any vibration, just some contortion in the windshield. Hope this makes sense. Thanks so much for your patience with me and all my silly questions. – Joan Dear Joan, Given your overwhelming fear of speed, as noted in previous letters, I am completely proud of you for taking the step in increasing riding speed. Bravo to you! I know this was no small accomplishment for you. I'm also not completely surprised to hear that your awareness of your surroundings is still a blur . . . you're concentrating on basic riding skills yet . . . so take heart and know that the more riding time you get in, the more you'll be able to shift concentration from the basics to the proactive scanning of your environment. Now, on to your windshield. If it's fogging up and you're riding in such a way that you have to look through the windshield, you may wish to consider a small trim off the top! Most riders agree its better to look over the windshield than through it. Here's an article from Motorcycle Cruiser about the ins and outs of the procedure. If however you are looking over the windshield and the fog glaze is simply distracting to you, there are anti-fogging products available and some simple home remedies. Keep at it Joan . . . you've been working so hard
towards your ultimate "yahoo" moment . . . and you'll get there
yet! –
Mama From Anon who is 16, living in England, and just getting started: I was just like Anon when I was 16 and I wanted to offer some words of
encouragement. Saturday, August 26 Dear VTwin Mama, I started riding on a Suzuki Savage 650 and sold it 3 years ago. I recently purchased an HD XL883L. I have signed up for the rider course (doing it right this time), but every time I mention to someone, that I am going to start riding again, I get this long tirade about how dangerous bikes are and that injury, or worse, is imminent. While this is not going to stop me, it does affect my confidence a bit. It just seems like a confident, not cocky rider, is one that is more likely to stay safe. Recently some one told me to act like every car on the road is out to get you and that will get you home safely. I want to enjoy the ride as well as always remain alert. Where is the balance? – Maria Dear Maria, One of the most important aspects of motorcycle riding is to be proactive while out on the roads. That means that you constantly scan your environment for potential problems. So, where is the balance? At first, this scanning of the road and viewing every thing as a potential hazard is a real conscious effort, but with some miles under your belt, you'll find that this slips to the subconscious level. You'll be riding along, see something that triggers a hmmmm, possible alert situation, you evaluate it, and you make a decision . . . but this "total awareness" it's no longer a jitter thought but rather a "I see it, do I need to adjust my ride?" thought. Thus, it becomes part of the joy of riding a motorcycle because you are using your complete set of skills every time you go out! So, take your course, get some practice sessions in a
parking lot with the Harley (same drills as the course), then gradually add
small steps (the neighborhood, light traffic, etc.). By taking things
step-by-step, you're less likely to overwhelm yourself and can begin getting
your brain accustomed to, and trained for, the safest journey possible! –
Mama Dear VTwin Mama, But for the past few years I've had a personal goal of getting my own endorsement by the time I turn 40. The past year I've started feeling EXTREMELY nervous when we're riding. It has everything to do with control issues. Does he see that car? That gravel? That . . . that . . . that??? Finally I bit the bullet, and just this weekend took the class, passing my test yesterday. And now I'm scared to death. I'm too nervous to ride behind, but scared to death to get on my own bike. After all, we never made it over 35 mph in that darned parking lot, and now they just turn us loose on the highway???? What are they thinking? I know, I know . . . how many riders every year don't even TAKE that class, they just start riding! So Sunday tonight we went on a ride, with me as passenger (as we were bike shopping for me), and I was such a nervous wreck I thought I would throw up. Good thing I had my sunglasses on so my husband couldn't see the terror in my eyes. The very frustrating part is NOTHING rattles me. I have been through an awful lot of things in my life that most will never (hopefully) have to experience, and I just coast through them keeping my emotions or fear in check. But this has sent me over the edge. Not only that, but the dreams! OMG! In the past few days, since taking my classes, I have dream after dream of going on ride after ride . . . totally naked! (I know, I know, I have already called "The Dream Doctor" about this and he's given me his opinion. LOL) My husband happens to think it's quite interesting and wants to know when it's really going to happen. So back to my fear. Is this normal? Is this one of those, "Just DO it!" kinds of things? Do I just take the plunge and make myself do it, like when I jumped out of an airplane the first time? Will this nervousness just get me killed, or is this what everyone goes through? 25 mph in the parking lot was not scary, nor did it seem fast enough. I wanted more. But HELLO! It was a little 250! How do I go about test driving bikes for myself? I think I may do better if I don't take my husband with me, as I'll feel very self conscious. Is this a bad idea? Would I be better off to have him along? Please, those who have gone before me, walk me through this. – Leah Dear Leah, I think that a lot of times we can be a very happy passenger but then in contemplating solo possibilities, we start noticing all sorts of stuff that heightens our awareness and the jitters set in. Imagine you are on a boat and have always been happy letting the "driver" do all the work. Then suddenly it occurs to you that if something happens to the driver, you don't have a clue how to handle the situation or the boat. Same thing with motorcycles. As your 40th birthday approached and your intent on getting your license got closer, you started seeing the ride through new eyes. Every thing that seemed simple now became a question . . . how are the basics done, how is a particular technique handled, how is that potential disaster avoided or damage minimized. Your sense of vulnerability increased, but not the control. There's nothing like the "naked dream" to emphasize this point! Taking the course has given you the beginning clues. Now take a deep breath in planning out your next steps. First, you don't just hop onto a bike and zoom down roads at top speeds. You get a motorcycle and head back to an empty parking lot and go through all your course drills so that you learn the handling characteristics of your own bike. You do this as many times as necessary before adding things like traffic. When ready, you pre-plan your first "true" route, by car if necessary, keeping it short and simple, and then choose the lightest traffic time possible and give it a whirl. Then you step-by-step add another challenge (a bit heavier traffic time, a bit more speed, etc.). Hubby dearest can assist by getting the bike to the practice lot and when you're ready for a road run, follow on his bike in case you need assistance! I can appreciate your frustration on choosing your first bike. What is your gut telling you about the bike cc size? Perhaps you would like to search for a used bike like one used in the course . . . find something cheap but running and get your initial practice months done. Not only that, but you'll have more "real world" clues on bike fit and what you think you can handle and would then be in position to test ride or rent "dream bikes" with confidence! Many new riders decide to get a mid-range or bigger bike right away. That's fine. When shopping, sit on bikes and pay close attention to the weight of the bike, your reach to hand and foot controls (even turning the handlebar all the way to the left to see if the reach is still ok), and your leg reach to the ground. Hubby can be there, but if the salesperson or private seller starts talking to him exclusively, a gentle reminder that the bike is for you, and all conversation should be addressed to you, can take care of that (especially if hubby is ready to tell the person, "hey, ou need to talk directly with my wife . . . this is for her!"). Trust me on this . . . if you think you would be self conscious test riding in front of your husband, imagine the erosion of confidence if you do it on your own and dump the bike in front of a seller or dealership. Yikes. When you find a motorcycle you are seriously considering, I would have hubby test ride in the area so you can see how it looks . . . it's been reported that many dealers no longer offer test rides, mainly due to insurance issues . . . not sure what your dealers' policies are. So, yes, there is a lot of "blindness" on the
first bike choice, but it's not completely hopeless! It's a rite of passage,
so trust your gut instinct and get on with it! It may be helpful to write down
each individual step you'll take once you have the bike . . . make a specific
plan, reward yourself for each small goal reached, and keep going. YOU CAN DO
IT! –
Mama Tuesday, August 29 Dear VTwin Mama, However, yesterday I did brave a 4-lane highway but when I got up to about 50 mph it was as though the wind would literally take my bike away. I don't know if it was just first time jitters of the speed or if it's something I should be aware of. The wind wasn't really up that much at all. It was a beautiful day. Maybe I just have speed jitters. Please help. – Anonymous Dear Anon, I have to imagine that there were also some curves in that highway, and even slight ones can cause some jitters at first. Part of the feeling may simply be that your countersteering techniques are now more important than ever and you have to loose the "steer" mentality in favor of the "lean" mentality. Are you comfortable with putting the motorcycle in the lean you need by pressing on the side of the handlebar to guide the bike around the curve? This is countersteering and does take practice! Some added points of interest: If you're wearing a jacket that is a bit loose and may be flapping, this can add to the sensation of speed and the bike being taken away from you. I'd also double check my knee position . . . do you have them relaxed and angled away from the body of the motorcycle? If so, you will find that the "knees drawn in to the tank" position gives a more solid feeling of being one with the motorcycle. The next time you ramp up to speed, I'd also do a bit of body work . . . meaning, lean forward just a tad toward the handlebar and see how the wind hits you differently . . . learn how the speed feels with your body in slightly different positions. So, hopefully these are some ideas to mull over and
incorporate into your next run. Keep at it . . . you're on the right
track! –
Mama Tuesday, August 29 For Leah whose heightened riding sense is scaring both her passenger and solo riding time: I had the same thing happen to me as Leah did. I am 45 years old and had always been a passenger on a motorcycle. I decided that I wanted to try to ride one on my own. I took the course and loved it, after getting used to the clutch, which was a big problem with me. About a week after taking the course, I purchased a Honda Shadow VLX 600 Deluxe and took it out to the parking lot across from my house. Boy, was that a wake-up call. I was scared out of my mind, like I had never, ever been on a bike before. That was one month ago. I am still in the parking lot, but doing much better. My turns are better and I am not afraid of cars that come into the lot on occasion. About a week ago, I thought that I would never "get it," but I am. I am a regular reader of the VTwin Mama site and the hints were very helpful to me. The other day, I rode on the back of my boyfriend's bike. I too found myself watching what he was doing with the controls. I was paying so much attention to him that I was not enjoying the ride as I had before. I had to close my eyes a couple of times too!! I guess that this is just normal for us newbies, that we are now tuned in to what it takes to operate a bike. The instructors in my MSF course (state police officers) told us that, although we passed the class, we were by no means ready for city roads. He encouraged us to practice in the parking lot for how ever long it takes to get comfortable with our bike and riding technique. I firmly believe in taking "baby steps" as I have read many times in on the VTM site. It takes time and patience and lots of practice to build confidence. So, Leah, you are not alone. I will not let my boyfriend watch me practice yet until I feel totally ready for the ride. He understands and is very supportive. I get nervous easily and do not want the added pressure of someone watching me while I am trying to learn how to ride a motorcycle. I tell him how I am doing and he answers any questions I still have. Maybe yet this year we can go out on country roads. The important thing is is that he is not pushing me to get out there until I am ready. If I am not ready till spring (we have long winters sometimes in Michigan), then so be it. The point is is that I plan on riding for a long, long, time and want to make sure that I am ready to enjoy it to the fullest. Hope this helps. – Happy Honda Rider (note from Mama: thanks for letting Leah know she is not alone with new found passenger jitters since starting going solo! I appreciate that you also shared expanded notes on parking lot practice and choosing to learn at your own pace . . . it's a highly important point.) I'd say your fear is completely normal, but it seems like you also really want to ride! I had a lot of fear at first, too. Riding in traffic terrified me, leaning terrified me, wind gusts were enough to make me turn around and go home! But I stuck it out, and I am so glad. I started out on a Honda Rebel, but I very quickly realized it didn't have enough power to make me feel comfortable. May I suggest you take the same route I did and find a dealership with a rental program? In our area, that meant Harley Davidson, but that's OK, because I ended up with a beautiful 1200 cc Sportster. It is definitely NOT too much power. It gave me a lot of confidence to know I now have the ability to scoot out of the way if I need to, and I can keep up with my boyfriend's big twin, too. I think a lot of women riders get intimidated by engine size, but remember, no matter what the top speed, every bike's speedometer starts at 0. It's up to you how much throttle you give it and how fast. Low end torque can be surprising if you don't know it's coming, but there's no reason women can't ride a big engine bike. As far as finding your first bike, I have a suggestion. Depending on your comfort level, you may want your husband along when you buy, but there's no reason you can't SHOP on your own. Go around to different dealers and sit on some different models and ask some questions. Then, when you've found YOUR bike, bring your husband along to make sure you've asked all the right questions. I've become more knowledgeable about the technical stuff since I got the Sporty, but at first, I wanted my boyfriend along because he knew what to ask about things like maintenance and reliability. Whew! I've rambled long enough! Good luck and let us see a pic when you've got that bike! – Li in Florida (note from Mama: love the point about shopping on one's own and narrowing down the field, then bringing in another viewpoint! Empowerment! And yes, all bikes start at 0 and it's up to us to practice and learn the specific handling characteristics of any new motorcycle we are considering . . . if it's new to you, it's new!) Dear VTwin Mama, Then a friend sent me an e-mail asking me which funeral home in town I preferred, another sent me a picture of a guy with severe road rash on his butt cheeks. Then my husband put a newspaper article on my desk citing increased motorcycle fatalities among new and returning middle-aged bikers. So I went to bed Sunday night with my confidence severely undermined, feeling "oogie" and thinking maybe this isn't a good thing, maybe I shouldn't do it, etc., etc., generally questioning the whole thing. I woke up Monday morning, though, envisioning myself on my bike and I feel a little better. My question is: Are these normal feelings or without being too dramatic, should I consider them a subconscious warning that maybe I shouldn't do this? Thanks! – Marna Dear Marna, I'm not surprised that you are questioning yourself and your chosen adventure. Who wouldn't given that awful question, terrible image, and negative article. There is nothing subconscious about any of that . . . THEY deliberately planted seeds of doubt, and because you value them in your life, it's natural you took it to heart. In no uncertain terms I would let these people know that if they can't share something positive, to keep their thoughts to themselves. How would they like it if you dredged up examples of auto accidents and fatalities of people who crossed a street? These are choices just like riding a motorcycle is a choice. And therein lies the crux
of the matter. You chose to pursue a new journey. Think back on what excited
you, what you thought you would learn . . . not just about the mechanics/
techniques, but about yourself . . . and why learning to ride matters to you.
Then proceed with the steps you have planned out. Insist on applause for each
challenge you meet, every baby step accomplished, every joy realized. You
deserve it! –
Mama Wednesday, August 30 For Marna who received negative input from friends and family: When I read
what her “friends” had done, I was appalled. When she mentioned her
husband not supporting her, I was embarrassed. I work with people in the
Army who are just like the ones she mentioned. They preach how dangerous
riding is, but sent me to I have noticed that you have mentioned a few riding books on your site. I bought Ride Hard, Ride Smart and found it to be a good review. It is written with common sense and is easy to read. I would recommend it to anyone who rides or is thinking about riding. Oh by the way, even as a male, I check out your site almost every day. Great job! – John Wright in El Paso (note from Mama: thank you for letting Marna know that even men get negative comments . . . it helps dispel the thought that this only happens to women! I'm glad you're enjoying your visits to the VTwin Mama site and you'll notice I've redesigned the "sassy classy" line at the top of the home page to let men know they are not excluded from sharing here.) What a lousy thing for your friends and husband to do! I especially loved the article about increasing motorcycle fatalities. I see that statistic all the time in articles on the dangers of riding a bike, but here's the thing: the greater the number of people riding motorcycles, the greater the corresponding number of accidents involving those riders. I have seen the exact same type of statistics for AUTOMOBILES compiled from the early 20th century, and the curve is the same. As the number of cars and trucks on the road increased, so did the number of accidents. BUT, your individual probability of being involved in an accident in any vehicle is more dependent on how careful you are and how skillful a rider (or driver) than anything else. As a new rider, I avoided riding in heavy traffic and at high speeds, and built up my confidence and skill level before moving on. It took me over a year to ride on the highway, but I did make it. I was involved in an accident on my bike back in April. I made a bad decision and ended up with a broken wrist and a messed up bike. I got back on the bike for the first time last Saturday, a lot wiser and more careful, but determined to keep on riding. I had a few nervous moments, but it was just so good to be back in the wind! – Li in Florida (note from Mama: thanks for the expanded view on those statistics they throw around and glad to hear you're mended and back to riding!) Wednesday, August 30 More for Leah whose heightened riding sense is scaring all of her riding time: When I got
my bike I had never ridden behind and now that I do ride my own it makes me
sick to my stomach to ride behind. I have to talk myself through the first 5
min. I really don’t like it at all. Consequently I have only done it a
handful of times!! When I
started out on a Honda rebel 250, little did I know that I would be on a
mid-range bike less than 4 months later. I had told
my bike riding hubby that he had better not expect me to leave the
neighborhood before the end of the summer. I took my time and progressed
exactly as I wanted to progress. I made myself ride a bit every day even if it
was just once around the block. The longer I stayed off the more trepidation
snuck in. I rode around and around the neighborhood for weeks. Then I added a
bit of distance and practiced that. Then I added time (perhaps I would go
around the circuit 3 times instead of twice.) Then I added a bit of traffic on
a light traffic day and time (which by me is not the weekend as we live on a
major road to the beach). Then I ventured into town (about 5 miles-rural) with
my hubby. We tried me in front and then me following. We would discuss our
ride prior to leaving and upon returning. I would get ready to go on a ride
and sometimes I just didn’t feel right about it so we would cancel it or put
it off a few hours. The point being I was the boss of my ride. Now I go
everywhere but I still approach every ride as a confident student of the
sport. I never
pushed myself if I felt scared. I wanted to enjoy it. Taking the smaller steps
helped me gain and KEEP my confidence level up. I still get a “fluttery”
stomach when anticipating a ride, but from all I have read that seems to be
normal. It is the reality of the risk, the reality of my skill level and the
reality of the fun factor all meeting up to help keep me safe and happy too. I read a
couple of really good books
which are listed on I STILL
dream about riding but not quite as much as those first few months. I STILL
can’t get over how wonderful this experience and journey has been. We all
think we are “just” learning to ride a motorcycle. But we are really
learning about ourselves at a very deep and intimate level and the experience
changes us profoundly. At least it has me. I recently
glued a tiny (one row of crystals) crown and a one inch Tinkerbell figurine to
my helmet because I feel like I am the ruler of my life now and as if I am
flying and soaring like Tinkerbell when I ride. Keep going Leah. Be smart
about it, be PATIENT with yourself and practice as much as you can. And listen
to all the good info shared on this site! Thursday, August 31 More for Marna who received negative input from friends and family: Anger most often stems from fear (as Mama
would say, IMHO) and so it seems to me your friends and husband are fearing
the worst and that may have turned into anger, consequently very unkind ways
of expressing that are now being manifested . . . ie: graphic pictures and
suggestions that you will meet your demise, etc. They think you are
“un-balanced” if you permit me that term. I would suggest that you offer them a
model of “balance” to suggest and bring home the fact that perhaps they
are the “un-balanced” thinkers. Tell them you understand that they are
afraid . . . you have some jitters too . . . but unlike them, you are taking
steps to eliminate those fears. Great protective wear, reliable bike, training
courses, books you can SHARE with them, DVD’s you can watch TOGETHER. And
most of all you (unlike them) will be PRACTICING, PRACTICING, PRACTICING, and
ENJOYING, ENJOYING, ENJOYING the whole of the process. These are all things you are doing to have
(and keep) a well thought out, balanced, approach to this sport Ask them why, if you the actual
participant can see the more balanced picture, they choose not to. Ask them to state out loud why they choose
only to see negative or bad aspects and not the good, positive aspects as
well. Ask them to deal with their fear in a more positive way . . . have them
come with you when you practice in the parking lot . . . or have them help you
wash your bike and teach them as you learn about the parts of the bike . . .
they can hold the manual and find the parts as you wash them and tell you what
they are. Decide together that they can say
something to you that is more healthy like “I am really scared for you
because I don’t think I am brave enough to even try.” A balanced sentence
of “you” then “me”. Or a look outward (you) and then in (themselves). It really is their fear you are trying to
deal with. DON'T make them deal with it. But, you may be more successful if
you do it in a way that shows them the understanding and maturity you expect
back. Monday, September 4 Even more for Marna who received negative input from friends and family: Please don't let these "well meaning" folks put you off. I have been there . . . a fellow in my office constantly brings me, as well as other riders, copies of gloom and doom articles. He says it is to educate us about why we should not ride. As a motorcyclist that walked away from an accident that killed 1 man in a full size van and the other fellow in the other car was airlifted, I say just do what you learned in class. As time goes by, you should find yourself paying more attention to other drivers both on your bike as well as in your car. Riding a bike makes you apply the concept of defensive driving. Yes, there are a lot of accidents, but no one seems to put as much gloom and doom on car accidents as they do when a motorcycle is involved. Please just thank these folks for their concern and let them know you will be safety conscious on your bike. It is not a death wish! – Susan (note from Mama: thanks for sharing! There were over 23 million motorcycle riders in the U.S. as of 2003 . . . there are NOT over 23 million motorcycle accidents every year . . . most of us make it through a year just fine. One has to question those that focus in only on the negatives . . . how DO they climb into their car every day and make it down the road?!) Those 'friends' & hubby were gruesome, not congratulatory: I sense the green-eyed monster, especially if they are guys who haven't the guts to ride. – Jem (note from Mama: it's hard to say where the nay-saying stems from . . . it would be a shame if jealousy is fueling the negative commentary as that truly is a poor reason to try to dash someone else's dream.) Wednesday, September 13 Dear VTwin Mama, Dear Debby, Is there a big empty parking lot nearby? Do you have someone who can ride the motorcycle there if it's a bit further away? Wear correct gear, from boots and jeans to a jacket, gloves, and helmet so that oopsies won't scrape you up. Consider it. Also, remember that in a panic situation, pull in the clutch lever to instantly remove power from the rear drive . . . then no matter what you are doing with the throttle, you're not hurtling forward any faster. With the clutch pulled in then you can calmly choose braking options. With practice, fear is replaced with a healthy respect.
I agree that horrible stories serve their purpose . . . if one is
listening to learn. If someone is telling such a tale, but doesn't include
what they learned from it, ask! –
Mama Dear VTwin Mama, Dear Debby, Messing up is a rite of passage, and if you think that's the sole province of new riders, you are mistaken! Just yesterday I was giving a riding lesson and dropped the bike in a tight right turn demonstration. Bashed the floorboard, but we persevered. I've been riding 26 years, so I'm here to tell you that not only are you NOT ALONE, but that learning is learning, no matter what experience level the rider has! I found the adrenalin rush amazing, but shut the bike down, turned my back to the bike, started the proper lift, and we got the bike righted. Definitely review the proper pickup technique for future reference. In regard to the embarrassment . . . the problem with hiding, instead of talking it out, is that we then are basically saying to ourselves, "I've got something to be ashamed about." Nothing could be further from the truth. Yes, there will be concern, sometimes followed by yelling (at ourselves and/or by another), but hiding accomplishes very little. In my opinion all it does is then set up the jitters. How can anyone help if you hide? Learning the smooth takeoff does indeed take practice. If you start with a bit of steady throttle, then ease out the clutch a bit, you'll find that you can duck walk the motorcycle along. If the bike is chattering or stalling, that's your clue that just a bit more steady gas is needed. It's the steady throttle that really helps and don't forget . . . if you feel like you're rocketing too fast forward, pull in that clutch lever first to remove additional power, then apply light brakes. Another thing I noodled out yesterday (working with Brooke on her Ridley auto tranny) is that starts can be shaky at the handlebar and front end when the rider doesn't pick up both feet together. My theory was that is throws off our personal center of gravity, which is at the hips. When we pick up one leg, then the other, there is a small shift of our bodies, which can cause some problems. Brooke practiced my theory and we were pleased to find that the smooth, even pickup of both feet in fact took away the twistie action at the handlebar, allowing her begin mastering a tight right turn from a stop . . . she "danced" with the bike very nicely! When we rode our bikes back to the house, I noted that I do pick up both legs in a balanced motion . . . have done it so long, I never really thought about it! Learning, learning, learning . . . So, dry your tears, stop beating yourself up, talk with
hubby, take a deep breath, and when your leg is ready, try again. And
again, and again. To ride a motorcycle is to choose to learn for a
lifetime . . . so if your goal is to ride for a lifetime, let learning and
sharing be your personal mantra! It's mine and has served me well . .
. –
Mama Tuesday, September 19 For Debby who ouched on an oopsie and is working on smooth starts: I have been riding for about 6-8 months now and I know about
starting from a stop. I kept feeling the bike tip every time I would start and
stop. It took dropping it 2 times and almost 2 more before I figured out my
problem at least. I was stopping and turning my wheel the direction I wanted
to go when I moved, so if I wanted to turn left I would stop with my wheel
turned to the left and the same for a right turn, my bike wanted to lunge to
the ground. Wednesday, September 20 More for Debby who ouched on an oopsie and is working on smooth starts: Hang in there. I'm 44, and rode a bike for the first time this past February. Yes, I dropped it, 4 times. Twice because "something funny happened" and twice because, well, I forgot to put the kickstand down (please tell me your laughing with me and not at me right now . . . ). ;-) The "something funny" turned out to be because I did not have my front wheel straight when I stopped. On a bike like mine (HD Sportster), this will tip it right over every time. Unlike you, I cannot pick my bike up. On all four occasions I had a huge bruise and "goose egg" on the inside of my leg that took weeks to heal. I have almost 2000 miles on my bike now and have not dropped it again. Not to say I haven't made some other dumb mistakes (which I won't go into here), but time will help your back, and it will help your riding. Good luck and don't worry . . . no one is born doing everything perfectly. We all have to learn, and make mistakes doing it. Hugs, – JoJo (note from Mama: we are definitely chucking with you about the kickstand oopsie . . . it happens lots, but not many 'fess up! Motorcycles will tip at the smallest of indiscretions, and a cocked wheel, unless you're duck-walking it using the clutch friction zone, spells trouble!) Dear VTwin Mama, I have even been looking at trike situations to get me past the fear of flippin' over. Seems to me, all the staying alert ya have to do, and caution on 2 wheels, where is the fun and relaxation of the ride? . . . hmmmmm. Hubby is NOT happy cause I'm scared of it now . . . cause we spent quite a bit on this little 250. He thinks trike situations are even more unsafe, but even good riders, and MANY, put their 2 wheel bikes under at times. I just wonder if I need MORE wheels for the safety because I sure don't feel safe on 2, and probably won't ever . . . ya think? – Debby Dear Debby, In your original letter you did not note that you have taken a riding course. It may be time to consider this. Not all teachers are created equal, and while your hubby dearest may have tried his best, it doesn't follow that he has the teaching/patience skills necessary. Hubby may be unhappy because he simply does not know how to help any more. Many classes are held year around and even in the northern states, they often continue on well into October. Hop on to my Learning to Ride page to see the schools available to you. If you wish to proceed on your own, with hubby's guidance, I would strongly advocate that you invest in several of the DVDs available from the Ride Like a Pro company. Jerry and Donna poured their hearts into creating visual learning guides that take you step-by-step through lessons. With these in hand, you and hubby could watch together and talk out the challenges you've already endured and he has witnessed. Create a battle plan! I can appreciate that the oopsies you've already been through have got you thinking about a motorcycle with more wheels. May I suggest that instead of abandoning the Rebel in favor of a trike, that you consider borrowing or renting an ATV (4 wheels) with a clutch so that you can get the feel of the clutch/shift/throttle combination under control without having to worry about tipping over. Many riders have written in that one day on an ATV helped their confidence level and was an important step in the learning curve. While I wouldn't characterize trikes as more unsafe than a two-wheel bike, they demand the same respect in terms of learning. Trikes have specific handling characteristics that must be considered and there are trike-specific classes for that (not as widespread, but they exist!). You are NOT ALONE in regard to your fear/anger. I think that many people are use to taking on a challenge and mastering it quickly, and more importantly, think that if they give it their best, all good things will follow. Learning to ride a motorcycle can be a real challenge to those cherished beliefs. Your fear is normal as you've had oopsies and your anger makes sense as you're replaying the oopsies over and over in your mind. The negative "video" you are replaying in your head is not helping. This negative visualization is eroding the very core of what you envisioned when you first got the Rebel. You've lost track of what propelled you into wanting to learn to ride in the first place. So, what was that?! Form a mission statement in your head, write it down, print it out, and tuck that piece of paper in a pocket of your riding jacket. Every time you walk up to the bike to take on a practice session, read your statement. Stay focused on the goal you have set out for yourself. Millions of women (and men) have faced the challenges, planned the steps, learned from the mistakes, gritted their teeth, straightened their spines, wiped away the tears, realized that learning is a process, and decided it was worth it. Is it still worth it to you?! Decide. And then get on with it. YOU CAN DO IT! The fun and
relaxation are the rewards for hard work and mastering of skills. Being
"one" with a motorcycle is very much like a dance, and the dance is
a joy that will be yours for a lifetime. –
Mama Saturday, September 23 For Debby who is struggling with lots of concerns as a new rider: My heart goes out to Debby for all her beginning
difficulties. In reading her letters in succession, it seems to me that
she may be biting off too much too fast. I
like Scooter Baby's new approach in that she is working on some
pre-riding fundamentals, namely learning to handle the weight of the bike
(or scooter in this case; hey, it has two wheels, right?) and moving it
around, etc. Perhaps Debby should start at the very beginning, not only to
build skills more slowly, but to repair her confidence and desire. She has
to become bigger than the bike, and before she can do that, she'll have to
be its equal. To illustrate, please let me tell you how I got started. The better you get to know your new friend, the more you want to go out with her. The learning curve is just something you have to pass through to get there. Like a cloud. Or a meat grinder (for your nerves). I had oopsies. Embarrassing ones. I cried, I got mad, I got depressed, I vacillated to the point of making myself and everyone else crazy. Then I was mad at myself because I couldn't decide. It took over my life. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't think anymore, and I was being pressured! I couldn't imagine this ever being fun. Every time I parked the bike I swore it would be my last time. My husband would get mad, then he was worried, then he was sure I could do it, then some little thing would happen and he thought it was a bad sign . . . and all THAT played on my mind. Between my fearful thoughts and his not-very-well-thought-out comments, it was mental torture. Petra, yours turned out to be the voice of reason without whose help I wouldn't be riding today. Everything you have told Debby so far is wonderful, but in addition I think it would help her immensely to back it down a notch or two, or even start over, but SLOWLY. Baby steps leave little room for the heebie-jeebies and jitters to squeeze themselves in because you're tackling and mastering small things at a time, making them virtual milestones. There is literally no room to squeeze in doubts. Not big ones, anyway. Mine may be a horror story of sorts, but I'm only telling it so Debby might be able shorten hers. Riding a motorcycle is so wonderful that it's worth the wait to do it right, whatever that takes. – Linda C. (note from Mama: thanks for strengthening the message of slowing down and taking baby steps. I can also see the wisdom in starting right from the beginning again and you have outlined some steps on how to do that . . . thanks! Pressure, whether from ourselves or from another source, does intensify any thing that goes wrong and can cloud our judgment. You have lovingly shared your journey to help another rider and it's sure to make a difference.) Hi Mama, great site!! I read here all the time and it has been an invaluable aid for me as a beginning biker. Thank you. [you are welcome!] Anyhow, for Debbie. I started out on a 600 Shadow VLX. I was all excited when I first got on it to give it a go. Unfortunately, I was being taught by my father-in-law . . . great man, terrible teacher. Long story short, I went about 18 feet before I wiped out. Scuffed up bike, road rash elbow, and injured pride. Oh how the pride hurt. That did a lot to undermine my confidence. I know exactly what you're talking about when you say the more you're off it the more the fear builds and then the anger. It's almost like a vicious circle. It is scary. Learning how to control that thing and remember all you have to do is scary. The pavement, unforgiving and hard, is very very scary. Scary? It can be down right terrifying. Especially when something goes wrong - like a wobble. The good news? Yes, there is good news. That fear itself is a good thing. It keeps you aware of the danger around you and makes you a safer rider. All you have to do is get that fear under control. You can do it. Remember to manage your risk - wear quality gear that makes you feel protected. TAKE THE MSF RIDER COURSE. It is worth every penny and your time. Take your time and learn at your own pace. Don't let anyone rush you. But get on that bike every day. Even if you only practice clutch control in the driveway. Hell, even if you just sit on it. Don't let the fear build up. Control it. When you're ready, go to a parking lot and practice evasive maneuvers. Learn them before you need them. One thing that really helped me learn to ride. I borrowed a friends dirt bike (don't take your street bike on the grass - it wasn't designed for that). I took it out to a big field with no obstructions. No pavement and nothing to crash into certainly cut down on the fear factor. So I was able to concentrate on learning balance, shifting, and handling. I rode around that field all day. It helped a lot. I've only been riding for a couple of months now. Every time I get on the bike, I'm still a little afraid. I say a small prayer and do my best. I read a little about motorcycling every night. It is ok to be afraid. If you're not at least a little, then something's wrong. Fear will make you smart. Fear will keep you alive. I wanted to specifically address one question: "Seems to me, all the staying alert ya have to do, and caution on 2 wheels, where is the fun and relaxation of the ride?" Yes there is a lot to manage. At first it seems overwhelming. But with time and practice these things start to become second nature. While you'll never be able to daydream on a motorcycle, eventually being alert won't interfere with your ability to relax and enjoy the ride! Best of Luck!! – Rob (note from Mama: thank you for letting Debby know that she is not alone about the fear/anger combination and for sharing your views about how to bring that under control . . . I especially liked the "do something with the bike every day" concept. A very astute observation as avoidance is clearly fueling the negative feelings. Congrats on your own steps as you work towards your goal of being a skillful and confident rider!) I wish you
lived down the road so I could cheer you on in person. I had such
frustration initially, HOWEVER, at that crossroad when I felt I should choose
to quit I decided to SLOW DOWN and reach my goal no matter how slow I had to
go to get there. I believe
from my very core that for an awful lot of us ( I am 48) this is a spiritual
journey into self awareness unlike we have ever experienced before . . . that
the ability to ride the motorcycle is in fact the secondary factor . . . a
manifestation of the transformation of perspective of self and self-control. I chose to go slower . . . something my type “A” personality (complicated by ADHD) was not used to but in desperate need of. I am not saying you are like me, but I am saying that perhaps there are some positive things to be gleaned along side of learning to ride if you “look through the turn” so to speak and focus on the goal. Instead of letting your fear degenerate into anger, realize that your fear is a survival mode. A mode that with slow patient practice, accomplishing baby steps on your bike will eventually subside as your skill level increases. With slow patient practice you will gain confidence and your skill level will increase and your fear will subside. If your true goal is to ride then it shouldn’t matter how long it takes. Give
yourself a timeline like I did. I told myself that if it took me 6 months to
leave the neighborhood then so be it. I rode a
little bit every day because I had read that this was better to master the
jitters than trying to do a longer ride once or twice. Even if I went just
once around the block I went out. I have a
routine for getting ready that helped to steady the nerves. I knew what to
expect. I rode the same path day after day, adding time and distance a bit at
a time. Give
yourself lots of time and work not just on conquering the bike but those
things like a lack of patience or what ever you determine it to be that are
actually hindering your success. We are all
here for you. Truly. More for Debby who is struggling with lots of concerns as a new rider: This is
also to bolster you up. I, too, had A LOT of nervousness and thought
I would never conquer my fright. I took the MSF course 8 years ago,
passed it, but skipped over a lot of the more difficult maneuvers. So,
when I thought I was ready for a bigger bike, I found out the hard way
that I was not. With a smaller, lighter bike I could ignore my lack
of good riding, but with a heavier bike I could not. I scared myself
silly, then gave up riding for 6 years. When I turned 50, I tried
again, and this time followed Mama's advice; practice, practice and more
practice. I put 300 parking lot miles on my new Harley Low-rider,
and it was worth every minute. I cried and was frustrated, many
times, but with constant practice I now have 2000 miles and have been
loving every minute!! If you really want it, it will happen for you.
I strongly believe it. Good luck to you-Lee, Harley rider from
Chicago burbs. And now an
update from Debby: Wednesday, September 27 Even more for Debby who was struggling but is now conquering the challenges: Debby, we are so proud of your great day! You'll still make some mistakes, but that big grin is what it's all about. – jojo (note from Mama: thanks for cheering Debby on!) WAY TO GO GIRL! Keep up the practice and you will make it. Even though I took the MSF and passed the first time I thought I never would. I too had shaky starts and all the other problems you have encountered. I chose a Kawasaki 500LTD for my first bike. It seemed to fit me. My husband, being a big Harley fan, did not like the bike but since it was my choice he let me get it. I put over 15,000 miles on that bike in about 15 months. I fell on my head about three times, broke the mirror off the right side twice (expensive little buggers) and damaged my pride a lot. I usually fell out in full view of others (like at traffic lights, in gas station parking lots, etc.). It took me a while to realize that I too was hitting that front brake and that was causing my falling. On a sport type bike the front brake is "grabby", I think. There is no progression when you pull the brake, it is either on or off. It will put you on the ground in a heartbeat if you are not very, very careful. HOWEVER, more of your stopping power is in the front brake than the rear. You need to learn to use that brake safely. Do not ever have your front wheel turned when you apply the brake or you will go down. Since getting the Sportster I have had less of a problem. I have not landed on my head once with it (knock on wood). HD has a more progressive braking system than Kawasaki. When you pull on the brake you slow down gently, not all at once. BUT when you need to do panic stops the brakes are there and great. I do enjoy that. It sure saves money on mirrors. Best of luck with your learning. Keep up the practice. Soon you will be mostly over the "flutters" but hopefully not fully. Those flutters keep up alert and makes us remember our lessons I think. "To everything there is a season" . . . and now is the season to ride! – CW in Hartford, AL (note from Mama: thanks for encouraging Debby and sharing some added thoughts on your own journey!) And now a
thank you from Debby: Friday, September 29 Dear VTwin Mama, At my wits end here, but trying to think of anything that may help. I can't get on a class list till March . . . IF lucky. Am going to make a few calls to ask a few people that may help me with some practice . . . or may even go it alone . . . OOOOO. A learner's permit is also an idea to get me some practice. Anyone have any ideas? This is sure a lot of trouble some days. When I get on the road for the first ride safely, he's staying the h*** home!!!! – Debby Dear Debby, So, I'm guessing that you're referring to the MSF course. Check the Harley Rider's Edge course (it's based on the MSF). They use a Buell Blast for training. It's got more cc's but I hear they could be a few more $$, but have more openings. Sorry to hear about the bad ending last night but I'm soooo proud of you for standing your ground. Keep doing that. I believe a learner's permit only requires passing the written test. Do it. Most states have a specific motorcycle handbook for the test. Check online to see if you can download it or call to your nearest DMV and check if they have one in stock (sometimes they don't). And now a message to your hubby almost dearest (print it out and hand it to him): Dear Important Person in Debby's Life, Tuesday, October 17 For Helen who is battling reluctance despite her love of riding: I do
experience what you have described. I am a newbie . . . I started
riding last February . . . well, I started a month of great frustration and
practicing last Feb. I guess I started riding the 22nd of April
when I got my “M” Two bikes (upgraded) and nearly 4000 miles later I find
I have become an avid and passionate rider. I would have NEVER guessed this
was where I’d be. But I do find that when I ride by myself (about 4 times a
week) I have an apprehension that goes away once I’m up and out on my bike.
Sometimes it is excitement and sometimes it is excitement combined with the
knowledge that it is a bit risky. I have found
that though it is exhilarating, it is still quite draining, so I have to take
inventory before I ride. I have to ask myself am I reluctant because I am
alone or am I really not “up” to it. If something is weighing heavily upon
my mind or I am unusually tired, I choose not to go, as much as I would like
to. It is a lot
of effort and tiring even while it is a joyful experience. If I determine that
I am slow to get out because I am alone, then I set my sights on my errand,
which I have to do regardless of what vehicle I take. If I am distracted
because of other duties or problems or mood or I am tired, then I usually take
the car. Though you
say you are not a “joiner," you may want to take a deep breath and
venture out to find one other person you can ride with on occasion in order to
ride more frequently. You may be surprised at how that actually feels as
opposed to how you think it will feel. If you let it, it could be very nice. Wednesday, October 18 More for Helen who is battling reluctance despite her love of riding: Petra, I am regularly astonished at how often my 'but it's only happened to me' thoughts & experiences are reflected in your site! I started riding behind my husband in '73 & got my own bike in '83. But we when we moved in '86 he sold his bike and, while I kept mine, I rode infrequently. Mostly family's & kid's schedules didn't give me much alone time but the traffic was intimidating too. The less I rode, the less confident I became and I was so concerned about getting into a situation I couldn't handle or laying my bike down that I talked myself out of riding that day. Or the next. Then I had some health issues the last couple of years that precluded riding at all. My Doc & I worked through those & I now feel as healthy as I did in my 30s. (I'm 56.) Getting back on my bike became a goal to validate my return to being 'me'. With just us at home and his career in a different place, Gary had more free time & in May bought another bike so we began to ride together since I was apprehensive about going alone. My old '81 Suzuki is not mechanically reliable (she sometimes gets in a snit & cuts off at inopportune times) nor the best balanced or even lowest by today's standards & I layed her down several times getting back on the road. Fortunately I'm a bit of a stoic and I just wore long sleeve tees so I didn't have to explain the bruises! Then in August I bought a new bike. WOW! My Hyosung GV250 is an amazing sweetheart. I can easily flatfoot it and it is incredibly well-balanced. The other day, in a slight rain on a downhill turn leaving a gas station, I caught a bit of loose gravel and started to loose it, but I easily righted while I thinking, "On the the Suzuki, I'd be going down." I took a portion of the MSF Experienced Rider Course last month and it was excellent. My community college offers the full day ERC which includes some classroom & discussions but also a half day Intermediate Riders Course. It is the exercises portion and doesn't have a pass/fail format. It was limited to 12 participates w/two instructors. On your own bike, they evaluate what you are doing right as well as giving tips and corrections. Since this class focuses on low speed maneuvering and various turns, this will give you the tools and confidence to take on your twisties. This class I would recommend to everyone every four or five years just to remind you what you should be doing! For me, a new bike in which I am fully confident, the MSF class, and probably most important: giving myself permission to ride for a couple of hours without feeling guilty I'm depriving my family of my precious presence (giggle), has me back on the same roads that formerly intimidated me and I'm feeling great. Go. Just a few blocks at first. Then add a few more each day. Let the weather choose whether you ride first or do laundry! – Jem (note from Mama: thank you for sharing the components of your reluctance . . . it's heartening to acknowledge that it can have many layers that don't always reveal themselves all at once!) Thursday, October 19 Dear VTwin Mama, I have been learning to ride for 5 months now. I took the UK CBT test, which is compulsory here like your MSF test, and then took about 20 hrs worth of lessons with a view to taking the test for a licence a few weeks ago. I am doing this as a goal to reach before I am 50 next year . . . if I do, then great . . . if I don't then . . . hey ho, at least I did ride one on my own and actually owned one so... that would be a cool goal as well. Now my instructor said I can ride but need more confidence before taking the test and that they could really teach me no more and I was really paying just to practice. So here's the thing . . . I have bought a Suzuki Intruder . . . very nice (we are only allowed 125 cc here until we have a licence) and I am ok on it once I am out . . . still a bit hopeless with bends and find it hard to relax and trust myself not to c**k up. But before I go out I get very apprehensive and butterflies as big as bats!! I would like to do it, pass my test, and ride a bike for pleasure with confidence, but it bothers me that maybe I'm not cut out for it. I have had my new bike for two weeks and been out on it 4 times for a nice little spin. My lessons involved a lot of riding in all sorts of places and some pretty s**t weather too (this is the UK after all)! But now I am on my own and I have turned into a softy baby!! Will I hack it . . . any advice? We don't have a UK site like this, so looking across the water for some solidarity. It's a great site and I will continue to look at it from time to time. Thanks for listening . . . so to speak . . . take care. – Sharon Southam Dear Sharon, I am fortunate that many readers outside of the U.S. have contributed input on non-US-centric information that will help now. If you go to my Useful Sites page, you'll see a subsection titled Outside of US and there you will find two UK sites I think will be helpful. How, you ask?! Well, you're on your own, but that doesn't mean you can't find a rider who would be willing to ride with you while you continue practicing your skills! Phooey on not hacking it . . . you've made it this far . . . so take a few more steps and you'll have that license before your 50th birthday! I have it on good authority that the UK Ride Out Club is the place to post your request for assistance! Just register (it's free!) and then post to the Rideouts and Social section. You'll note on their home page that say right up front that even someone with only a few hours of riding time can post and join in! There are also about 300 women riders who belong to the UK section of the Womens International Motorcycle Association. On this page you'll find contact info. DO IT! You may feel "soft" at the moment, but now is the time to straighten up and get in touch with riders! That feeling of apprehension before you ride . . . normal! That's right, it's normal, and even experienced riders get the nervous tummy syndrome some times. YOU ARE NOT ALONE. So take the step to get in touch with riders in your area and ask for what you need. Do not apologize . . . they have been where you are now and understand! – Mama Wednesday, November 1 Well Mama, And yesterday, I rode to work for the first time! Not a major trip but at least I am on the roads! I am taking the baby steps and feeling very good about it! By this time next summer I will be riding all over the place! I love my little Rebel! It has given me a chance to really get some confidence ... I still have trouble with going real slow but I am practicing and have learned to feel more comfortable in my turns! Every time I get on the bike, I look up to heaven and know Piggy is watching me... I bought his Police Bike from the estate and am having a friend of mine customize it for me. He has already picked out 2 little chrome pigs for the fenders and I am going to have a few pigs with wings painted on the tank! When it's done, I will send you pictures! Thanks for all of your support and all of the ladies who have written to me!! Your site is excellent and I will keep coming back for more help and encouragement !! Love ya! – T. Dear T., I am glad to hear that the Rebel is allowing you to gain confidence and riding time in small steps . . . you are definitely on your way to becoming a skilled rider in your own right. And it's awesome that you're customizing one of Piggy's motorcycles with an eye toward riding it yourself when you are ready. I know he is smiling down on you, just as I was smiling
when I read your letter. We're all cheering you on and glad to hear that
the VTM site is providing a place of support you can count on! What joy it
will be to see you and the bike! –
Mama Wednesday, November 1 Dear VTwin Mama, |
